When I started blogging the sole intention for my blog was to have an outlet. I wanted a space to talk about my own everyday life and life issues including personal stories, hardships and so much more. I also really wanted a space to share the FUN things I like to make & create – like DIY’s or recipes (because y’all know by now that I love to cook) or really cool informational posts (because, I absolutely love researching and sharing info). Basically, I wanted a place to share EVERYTHING I am passionate about.
However, through the past year, my blogs “image/brand” has become mostly just the fun stuff: recipes and kid’s crafts etc. At some point in that year, I found I wasn’t really writing about everyday life, grievances, hardships or even just the amazing moments that I was experiencing. I found myself going through some situations, needing an outlet to speak and thinking that my blog was just not that place for that. I believe it was mostly out of fear of judgment from readers as well as from people I know personally. I also told myself that I could never include anything that had any speck of politics, religion or just any subject that may be controversial because it was not “my place”. I told myself I could not speak too much about my Fibromyalgia and chronic pain, and I could not write about the hardships of being a mom with a debilitating condition because I would just be looked at as a person who complains. I told myself I could not speak about my achievements, because then I would seem like I am bragging.
I have told myself to stay quiet – because people judge, people bully and people pounce. While MANY people COULD relate to many things I have to say, I was worried about the people who COULDN’T relate. WHY????
I have a friend who told me a few months ago that I need to stay away from touchy subjects on my blog. That “It will hurt my brand”. While that friend may have a point, in a sense he is also very wrong. You see, my brand “Simply ChaCha” represents me, Alicia – “ChaCha”. It represents my life and all the things I want to share with the world. My blog was MEANT to be a place where I can go, spill my guts about something in one post and give my readers a great casserole recipe in the next. That was the intention from the beginning. To share my thoughts and to be HONEST. And that is exactly what I intend on doing.
I no longer want to remain silent because it is “easier”. I no longer want to remain silent because of what others think. I no longer want to remain silent on any issue, just because it may turn some people away. That is fear, and I do not want to live in fear.
Will it hurt my blog? Maybe. Will I lose readers? Possibly. May I gain followers? I don’t know. Will some people get upset at what I write? I am sure. Will some people relate and love the content? I believe so. All of this is okay! You see, not speaking up about things that DO impact my day-to-day life, issues that affect all of us etc., out of FEAR of not being “liked”? I mean, really? Just sharing cute or pretty things and making life look perfect, THAT is lying to myself and to all of you.
I have always been a person with huge convictions. When I believe in something, I am passionate about it. By allowing myself to steer away from this in the past year, I have robbed myself (and my loyal readers) of really great conversations, debates, awareness of issues, critical thinking and so much more. I have remained quiet about issues that many women, moms, sisters etc., may relate with. I have denied myself the “outlet” that I initially seeked to have, to keep everyone else “happy”. Yet, I know that some of those conversations could have been helpful to others. And, if I can help even 1 person through something I write, that makes me happy.
So, with that said, from this moment I will continue to share the things y’all love to see and already come here for. However, I intend to go back to the ROOT reasons of why I started this blog and I WILL BE discussing real life issues. If it turns some people away I can live with that. If there is a subject that inspires me to write about it, I will be discussing it. Whether its family life, politics, marriage, or really just anything. This is what “Simply ChaCha” was always meant to be about. Simply about my thoughts, hopes, dreams, inspirations and everything in between (both good and bad as well as all the “fun”stuff) that I could share with the world. Without limitations and without fear.